Navigating Neurodiversity: Bridging Gaps in Therapy and Advocacy

April 2, 2024

Neurodiversity Attuned Therapy  needs to happen now

For far too long, neurodivergence has been misunderstood and overlooked, particularly in adults and children who tend to sit quietly in the background, flying under the radar while working hard to fit in. As research has progressed, it has become evident that neurodivergence exists on a broad spectrum, often accompanied by co-occurring issues like trauma, anxiety, and depression.


What is NeuroDivergence?

Neurodivergence is the term for when someone's brain processes, learns, and/or behaves differently from what is considered "typical." (See the Very Well Mind website for a more complete understanding).   Many diagnosis fall under the umbrella of Neurodivergence, such as ADHD, Autism, AudHD,  Dyslexia, Tourette, OCD, etc,  (see image above the text, a non exhaustive view of Neurodiversity by Dr Nancy Doyle). Many neurodiverse individuals  experience two or more types, while others have yet to find a diagnosis that fit them.


When adults seek therapy, it's often due to a  struggle to fit in, an experience of depression or anxiety, or a feeling of overwhelm toward what is expected of them.   Clients sometimes mention that they were treated for ADHD as children, and that somehow as adults they were expected to fall into the "normal" range of thinking, feeling and functioning.  Traditional adult therapy seeks to treat symptoms without fully adapting interventions to encompass the diversity within neurotypes.

Unfortunately, graduate and postgraduate trainings often lacks in those adaptations, leaving many behind both in terms of neurodiverse therapists and clients. This is a cycle of lack or training, lack of adaptability within trainings, and an ignorance around neurodiverse clients that keep many of them from continuing therapy, thinking that there is something drastically "wrong" with them that a therapist can't "get" them.


The recent diagnosis with my own neurodiversity spurred me to delve deeper into the concept of neuro-affirming psychotherapy. I embarked on a journey, interviewing three neurodivergent therapists in Colorado to understand how they approach therapy differently from the neurotypical model. Through this series of blogs, I aim to share my findings, recognizing that while subjective, they contribute to an emerging movement of neurodiversity-affirming approaches within counseling.

In the upcoming blog posts, I'll explore various aspects of neurodiversity-affirming psychotherapy:

  • 1. Therapeutic Relationship and Format: Delving into the differences between neurotypical and neurodivergent styles of therapy, highlighting the importance of tailoring therapeutic approaches to individual neurotypes.
  • 2. Neurodivergence from a Nervous System Perspective: Examining how understanding neurodivergence through the lens of the nervous system can lead to a more trauma-informed approach to therapy, recognizing the interconnectedness of neurodiversity and trauma.
  • 3. Insights from Neurodivergent Therapists: Sharing pearls of wisdom gathered from interviews, encouraging therapists to learn from neurodivergent perspectives and empowering clients to navigate the therapeutic landscape more effectively.

Ultimately, advocacy for neurodiversity begins with education. By bridging the gap between providers and clients through understanding and guidance, we can dispel misconceptions, strengthen therapeutic relationships, and ensure more congruent and effective treatment for all individuals, regardless of neurotype. Join me on this journey of exploration and advocacy as we strive for a more inclusive and affirming approach to psychotherapy.


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I’ve pulled together a holiday wishlist full of things that actually help — not the “must-have productivity bullet journal” hype, but real tools that me and people in my little ADHD-community lean on. Some of these are sensory, some are calming, some are just practical for a brain that forgets where it put its keys… again. This list is not sponsored — these are things that have brought relief or joy to real neurodivergent folks, myself included. My ADHD Gift Guide: What to Ask For (or Treat Yourself To) 1. Books & Workbooks The Anti-Planner If you’ve tried all the planners and they just end up collecting dust: this is for you. It’s not a dated planner — think of it more like an activity workbook for procrastinators. There are games, prompts, and low-pressure strategies to help you actually start stuff, even when motivation is MIA. It’s a favorite because it meets you where you are. Dani Donovan / Anti-Planner+1 Where to buy: You can order The Anti-Planner directly from the author’s site. Dani Donovan / Anti-Planner (Note: be careful of knockoffs.) Reddit+1 2. Fidgets & Sensory Tools Little Ouchie Grippie — This is one of our top picks in the office. It’s spiky, but in a grounding way — great for emotional regulation, calming down, or just giving your hands something to do when your brain is all over the place. Square Magic Dice — This is the fidget I can’t stop playing with. There’s a little hidden gem inside: a spinning-top spring surprise. It’s simultaneously weirdly magic and deeply satisfying. 3. Nervous System + Bedtime Support Pulsetto Vagus‑Nerve Device — Okay, full disclosure: I’m skeptical about how effective it is. BUT — I use it every night. The soundtrack, the ritual, the feel — it’s comforting. Pulsetto uses gentle vagus-nerve stimulation to help you relax, reset, and (supposedly) sleep better. 4. Grounding + Anxiety Soothers Bearaby Organic Cotton Weighted Blanket — Weighted blankets are a classic, and this one is dreamy. Soft knit cotton that’s breathable, but still gives that comforting hug. Perfect for calming down racing thoughts or overactive nerves. 5. Practical Lifesavers for the Forgetful Brain Apple AirTag — This is basically my “where are my keys? where’s my phone?” insurance. I’ve got like ten of these floating around, and on stressful days, “Find My” is my lifeline. 📝 A Few Other Beloved Ideas Beyond the main items, here are some bonus favorites from clients: Mini sensory stones or palm pebbles (textured, smooth, grounding) Visual timers (e.g., time-block timers) like the time timer A sunrise / gentle alarm clock (for less jarring wakeups) Noise-canceling headphones if the world feels too loud A self-care workbook (unplanner style) to track moods, energy, and needs 💬 Why These Items, Specifically I didn’t choose these just because they’re “trendy ADHD gifts.” Instead: These are things that people in my therapy space or IRL community actually use . They support emotional regulation , sensory needs , executive functioning , or daily brain stuff — not just productivity for the sake of “being busy.” Many are tools , not “fixes.” They’re not magic cures, but they help make life a little more manageable. ⚠️ Disclaimer This is just a personal list, curated from me + my clients. I’m not a product reviewer or a scientist — I’m a therapist + ADHD person. I cannot guarantee that these will “work” for you. Use your own judgment for anything with health or sensory implications. None of this is sponsored or affiliate-linked (unless you find links later, that’s your call — but not mine).
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