Swimming Through the Current of Anxiety: Tools for Stability

February 13, 2025

Here is a list of tools to help you navigate your (and the ambient) anxiety

Right now, many people are feeling anxious, dysregulated, and uncertain. The world seems like a chaotic place, and that feeling of unease can be contagious. Just like stepping into a room full of anger can make you tense, being surrounded by collective fear and stress can deeply affect your own nervous system.

So, how do we swim through this current rather than being dragged under? Here are six essential tools to help you regain stability and resilience in turbulent times.

1. Discipline and Routine: The Foundation of Stability

It may sound basic, but structure is fundamental. Keeping a routine around sleep, food, and movement can anchor you when everything else feels unstable. Aim for consistent sleep patterns, nourishing meals, and daily movement—even if it’s just stretching or a short walk. When your body has predictability, your mind follows suit, making it easier to navigate stressors.

2. Community: Find Your People

Humans are wired for connection. In moments of crisis or instability, isolating yourself can make anxiety feel even heavier. Finding a group—a nonprofit, a band, a book club, a local advocacy team—where you can engage in something larger than yourself is powerful. Talking about something beyond stressors, working toward a shared goal, or simply laughing together can help shift your nervous system out of fight-or-flight mode.

3. A Sense of Purpose: Give Your Mind Direction

Uncertainty can feel paralyzing, but purpose acts as a compass. It doesn’t have to be grand. On a large scale, you could join an advocacy group or volunteer for a cause. On a smaller scale, learning a new skill, improving on a hobby, or even setting personal growth goals can provide a sense of control and direction. When your mind has something to focus on, it’s less likely to spiral into anxiety.

4. Timed Distractions: A Healthy Balance

Distractions can be a helpful coping tool—when used intentionally. Watching an episode of your favorite show, scrolling for five minutes, or playing a short game can offer relief. But too much can lead to dissatisfaction and numbness. The key is setting limits. Use a timer or pick a set number of episodes or minutes, so you don’t slip into avoidance rather than regulation.

5. A Toolbox for Regulation: Build Your Own Resourcing Kit

When anxiety takes over, it helps to have go-to tools for grounding. Create a list or a physical box filled with ideas, such as:

  • Playing a favorite song or curated playlist
  • Smelling a scent that helps you feel present (lavender, peppermint, citrus)
  • Hugging a pet or weighted plush
  • Singing, humming (great for vagus nerve activation), or laughing
  • Jumping jacks, shaking your arms, or dancing to release tension
  • Watching a candle burn or focusing on a soothing visual
  • Cuddling under a weighted blanket or wearing a compression vest

Having these tools at the ready makes it easier to shift out of distress when needed.

6. Nourishment: Support Your Gut, Support Your Mind

Your gut health and mental health are deeply connected. Eating fermented foods like kimchi, yogurt, and sauerkraut (if not contraindicated) can support a balanced gut microbiome, which in turn supports mood regulation. Other nourishing foods include:

  • Omega-3-rich foods like salmon, flaxseeds, and walnuts
  • Dark leafy greens for their folate and magnesium
  • Berries and citrus fruits, high in antioxidants
  • Complex carbohydrates like quinoa, sweet potatoes, and oats to stabilize blood sugar

The Takeaway

These are challenging times, but you have tools to help you navigate them. By creating structure, seeking community, finding purpose, balancing distractions, curating a resourcing toolkit, and nourishing your body, you can build resilience.

You are not alone in this. Keep swimming.

November 22, 2025
I’ve pulled together a holiday wishlist full of things that actually help — not the “must-have productivity bullet journal” hype, but real tools that me and people in my little ADHD-community lean on. Some of these are sensory, some are calming, some are just practical for a brain that forgets where it put its keys… again. This list is not sponsored — these are things that have brought relief or joy to real neurodivergent folks, myself included. My ADHD Gift Guide: What to Ask For (or Treat Yourself To) 1. Books & Workbooks The Anti-Planner If you’ve tried all the planners and they just end up collecting dust: this is for you. It’s not a dated planner — think of it more like an activity workbook for procrastinators. There are games, prompts, and low-pressure strategies to help you actually start stuff, even when motivation is MIA. It’s a favorite because it meets you where you are. Dani Donovan / Anti-Planner+1 Where to buy: You can order The Anti-Planner directly from the author’s site. Dani Donovan / Anti-Planner (Note: be careful of knockoffs.) Reddit+1 2. Fidgets & Sensory Tools Little Ouchie Grippie — This is one of our top picks in the office. It’s spiky, but in a grounding way — great for emotional regulation, calming down, or just giving your hands something to do when your brain is all over the place. Square Magic Dice — This is the fidget I can’t stop playing with. There’s a little hidden gem inside: a spinning-top spring surprise. It’s simultaneously weirdly magic and deeply satisfying. 3. Nervous System + Bedtime Support Pulsetto Vagus‑Nerve Device — Okay, full disclosure: I’m skeptical about how effective it is. BUT — I use it every night. The soundtrack, the ritual, the feel — it’s comforting. Pulsetto uses gentle vagus-nerve stimulation to help you relax, reset, and (supposedly) sleep better. 4. Grounding + Anxiety Soothers Bearaby Organic Cotton Weighted Blanket — Weighted blankets are a classic, and this one is dreamy. Soft knit cotton that’s breathable, but still gives that comforting hug. Perfect for calming down racing thoughts or overactive nerves. 5. Practical Lifesavers for the Forgetful Brain Apple AirTag — This is basically my “where are my keys? where’s my phone?” insurance. I’ve got like ten of these floating around, and on stressful days, “Find My” is my lifeline. 📝 A Few Other Beloved Ideas Beyond the main items, here are some bonus favorites from clients: Mini sensory stones or palm pebbles (textured, smooth, grounding) Visual timers (e.g., time-block timers) like the time timer A sunrise / gentle alarm clock (for less jarring wakeups) Noise-canceling headphones if the world feels too loud A self-care workbook (unplanner style) to track moods, energy, and needs 💬 Why These Items, Specifically I didn’t choose these just because they’re “trendy ADHD gifts.” Instead: These are things that people in my therapy space or IRL community actually use . They support emotional regulation , sensory needs , executive functioning , or daily brain stuff — not just productivity for the sake of “being busy.” Many are tools , not “fixes.” They’re not magic cures, but they help make life a little more manageable. ⚠️ Disclaimer This is just a personal list, curated from me + my clients. I’m not a product reviewer or a scientist — I’m a therapist + ADHD person. I cannot guarantee that these will “work” for you. Use your own judgment for anything with health or sensory implications. None of this is sponsored or affiliate-linked (unless you find links later, that’s your call — but not mine).
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